I'M STILL GRIEVING

I'd like people to stop telling me "it is what it is" or "we should try to unite the country" or "you're going to be okay." I am aware that my family and I will be okay but that's not enough. I need to know that, as my friend Jeff Chang entitled his last book, that WE Gon Be Alright. 

This election was about misogyny, patriarchy, white fear, white fragility, and, above all, white supremacy. I am infuriated by the anemic attempt to normalize what's happened. "Oh, he's already softened his position on the Affordable Care Act" or "he seemed truly humbled after he met with Obama."

None of that shit makes me feel better. He is still a racist, misogynist, xenophobe, homophobe, sexual predator. The bar is so fucking low that we take even the slightest shift in demeanor as a glimmer of hope.  None of it makes me change my position on the fact that he is spectacularly manifestly temperamentally and intellectually unqualified to be the leader of the free world.

This is not normal. This is terrifying and fucked up.

Here's a great article in HuffPost that articulates my concerns: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/heres-why-we-grieve-today_us_5824e035e4b0f616ef3031db?