As I revealed to my boys that I was now single, they sprang to action, lovingly proffering unsolicited advice.

Chris Lighty (RIP): "You've done 12 years hard time, Soph. Go out there and be Q Tip. Go fuck whoever you want."

Q Tip: "You should grow your hair back. You've been rocking the caesar for a minute, Soph.

Raphael Saadiq (not hip hop, but guilty by association): "My advice to you is not to let Chris Lighty or Tip be your love coach!"

Special shout out to my boys who gently suggested that I try playing for and with the other team this go 'round: "Soph, maybe it's time you tried being with a woman. It could be new and beautiful and exciting. And...I'd like to be there."